We understand more and more about genetics these days, and we love to discover how our genes influence who we are.  We hear that a certain gene influences obesity, or sports ability, or temperament. The problem is, we think that “genetic” means a person has no control. Even top scientists get confused thinking that 30% heritability means that 30% of that trait is determined by genes. Nope.

Further, rarely does anyone say “IQ is 75% influenced by environment” they only mention the 25% that might be “determined” by genes.

So don’t be fooled. Genetics are important, but they are only part of us. Environmental influences are countless and complex. Personal choice is a big factor. We are just very very complex creatures.

And so are our kids.